Written by: Margo K. Taylor
Waiting is an inevitable part of life. Something we all must do. So, since we all must do it, why not learn to do it gracefully! Follow along as I share some tools to assist you in the waiting process, so that you too can “enjoy the wait”.
I truly believe that waiting is an artform and there is a treasure on the other side of your wait; but there’s also a treasure wrapped on the inside of your wait too. You just discover (uncover) it.
Almost 14 years ago, I found myself in a season of waiting, have you ever been there? Well, if you haven’t, you will! Everyone waits for something at some point and time in life. Whether you are waiting on a financial miracle, a healing, the birth of a child, the return of a loved one, or a husband, as was my case. Everyone waits for something! If you’re anything like me, you don’t like waiting at all. But, let’s face it, sometimes there’s no other choice. So, our job is to know how to wait, and what to do in the wait.
My first few years of waiting were arduous; they were filled with tears, doubts, insecurities, and mounds of questions: “Could this ever happen for me, maybe I’m destined to be single, would I make a good wife, are there enough good men?” …. None of these thoughts however, got me any closer to what I was waiting for; and quite frankly probably pushed me further away. Simply because no one wants to be around a tearful, doubt-filled, insecure person. Those thoughts and subsequent actions were probably showing up like a bad makeup job, making everyone run in the opposite direction. It wasn’t soon after that I learned the art of waiting, and I discovered the treasure in the wait. The core to discovering the treasure in the wait, is learning to be content. But how do you get there? It takes loads of practice. For starters you need to get busy in the wait. I know the word wait gives an illusion that you are to be still, unmovable. But actually it is quite the opposite, wait can also be understood to denote activity. It is defined as staying in a place of expectation, and to serve. What are some ways that you can stay in a place of expectation? Well by getting a picture of what you want down on the inside. Collect a picture or pictures of what you desire, and what you are waiting for. If it’s a healing, get a picture of yourself when you were well. If it’s a child get the picture of a baby, or baby clothes etc. I’m sure you get the idea. You need to keep what you are waiting for before your eyes. It should be so clear that you see it vividly when your eyes are closed. When I was waiting for my husband I wrote character traits from the Bible that I wanted him to have and I rehearsed them to myself daily. I wrote things like he is a leader like Moses, brave like David, and wise like Solomon. Place pictures of your expectations on a board and have it some place where you can see it daily, mine were all over my house. I could do that then, I was single! Reading my expectation statements aloud to myself and looking at pictures of bride dresses kept me in a place of expectation, it allowed me to enjoy the wait. Here, is where I saw parts of my wedding, in my minds eye. Start using the gift of your imagination, that’s one of the reasons you have it. Seeing what you are waiting for and keeping it before your eyes will keep your heart fixed and convinced that it will happen for you. It is so easy to desire something, but no longer expect it. It simply has become a vague thought pushed back in the crevices of your mind. During this time of expectancy you have to mentally grab hold of your desire, and see yourself with it, hold on with all of your might. You may even have to fight for it; because letting go sometimes seems so much easier. But this is where you discover the treasure of internal strength and fortitude on the inside of you. Staying expectant keeps you hopeful, and your desires fresh! Don’t let ANYTHING steal what you are waiting for.
Next, Invest in yourself. Do something you have always wanted to do. Take a class, obtain that degree, develop a hobby, take a trip, learn a new language, start a business. Get busy becoming a better version of you, and if you already feel you do this, then continue. Who knows, what you’re waiting for could be connected to your personal investment. One of my personal hobbies is working out. Little did I know that I would meet my husband at the gym. So, invest in yourself, your so worth it!!! Your personal investment is another way you unlock the treasure inside you.
This next one is tricky, celebrate others; especially those who have achieved what you are still waiting for. Yes, agree to be the bridesmaid for the tenth time, knowing your turn is coming. Host that baby shower, give that financial gift. Celebrate others the way you expect them to celebrate you, and I guarantee you they will!!
Now let’s get our eyes off ourselves and focus on others, this is part b of the definition of waiting that we so often neglect, our service to others. There are so many ways that you can give to others. You can volunteer at your local hospital, or senior citizen center. Serve at your local church, or library, assist an elderly neighbor just to name a few. If you are unable to assist outside, trying online volunteering, there are quite a few opportunities available.
Lastly, start a gratitude journal. This is a great way to remind yourself of how very much you have to be thankful for. I record my entries twice a day. Once in the morning, and once at night. On those days when it’s just too hard to remember anything to be thankful for, pull it out and rehearse your blessings.
These were the tools (otherwise known as Hope Keys) that I used during my season of waiting for my husband. Now that I’ve been married for 14 wonderful years, I can look back and say that every prior minute was well worth the wait!!! I do pray that these Hope Keys bring you as much success in your wait as they have for me.
Let’s recap our Hope keys so that you can use them to Enjoy your Wait as you move from challenge to victory.
Hope Key # 1 Expectancy + Hope Key # 2 Invest in Yourself + Hope Key # 3 Celebrate Others + Hope Key # 4 Serve Others = Enjoying the Wait
Check out Margo’s chapter in my book: God Did It! Answered Prayers for Love & Marriage – Chapter 3 God’s Appointed Time by Margo K. Taylor